Thursday, May 8, 2025
A cup of coffee offered without request. A dish prepared at home and brought to the office to share. A small souvenir handed over with a smile after a trip. These are not grand displays, but they are acts of thoughtfulness that build trust, inclusion, and human warmth in professional spaces.But what happens when those gestures are never returned?The Delicate Balance of Giving and ReceivingReciprocity is not about keeping a tally or expecting immediate repayment. Rather, it is about respect. When kindness flows consistently in only one direction, even the most generous hearts begin to notice the absence of response.Consider a scenario where one colleague regularly brings another coffee, or prepares something to share. In return, the recipient offers nothing—not even the intention to reciprocate. Sometimes, excuses are offered: “I don’t know how to make coffee.” But reciprocity is less about capability and more about care. Buying someone a coffee now and then is not difficult—it’s a gesture anyone can extend if they choose to.The Subtle Messages We SendAnother subtle but telling example: when a colleague frequently shares food or edibles with another, but that person often brings snacks or meals to the office and consumes them alone or only with others—never offering to share with the one who consistently includes them. While no one is obligated to share, the ongoing decision not to include someone who regularly shares with you can signal disregard or a lack of mutual respect.These actions—or the absence of them—send messages, whether consciously intended or not. And over time, the imbalance can affect how people feel valued and seen within a team or relationship.A Culture of Mutual RegardHealthy workplaces aren’t built solely on productivity—they’re built on people. And strong relationships, even professional ones, require some level of mutual investment. A small return gesture, an occasional offering, or even a heartfelt thank-you contributes to a balanced and democratic atmosphere.Reciprocity does not mean matching every action, but it does mean reflecting on what one can give in return. It’s about noticing when someone has consistently included you and asking: “Have I done anything to show I value that?”Kindness Is Strongest When It CirculatesIn the end, kindness is a social current—it’s strongest when it flows both ways. When appreciation is not only felt but expressed through thoughtful gestures, it reinforces a culture of inclusion, gratitude, and mutual care.So whether it’s brewing the next cup of coffee, offering a taste of your homemade snack, or simply recognizing someone’s effort with a thoughtful response, remember: even the smallest return can make a big difference.
Tuesday, February 21, 2023
A Disruptive Technology
Einstein had once legitimately asked his teacher, and not irrationally, as to why you burden us with dates and facts, and the likes of 'the longest river and the biggest monument'.
I'm not interested in knowing how many armies were killed in which war. Or, which army killed more than which other?
The factual and procedural knowledge (please read information) can always and way more conveniently be accessed and leveraged on the internet.
AI is a Disruptive Technology.
The disruptive technologies have been 'wheels', 'electricity' and 'cellphones' and lot more.
Stop stuffing your child with factual and procedural knowledge.
We burden our students with such useless facts at the expense of HIGH ORDER COMPETENCIES like appreciating a situation and responding to it in their own original way.
The examination agencies, schools, colleges, universities, CBSE, PUBLIC SERVICE COMMISSIONS etc MUST MUST wake up to the call.
Stop asking who won what and who didn't.
The most chewed management cliche - Selection is a negative process - needs a changeover.
A competitive examination must assess the ability of the aspirant to handle a situation and offer her own untrodden reflection with objectiveness of her perspective.
Welcome all disruptive technologies like AI and a myriad of similar things to follow.
Umesh